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We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what women do. We raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about our sons’ girlfriends, but our daughters boyfriends? ‘God forbid!’ But of course when the time is right, we expect those girls to bring back the perfect man to be their husband. We police girls, we praise girls for virginity, but we don’t praise boys for virginity. And it’s always made me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out because *laughs* the loss of virginity is usually a process that involves *laughs*…
We teach girls shame. ‘Close your legs!’ ‘Cover yourself!’ We make them feel as though by being born female, they are already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up—and this is the worst thing we do to girls—they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an artform.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, TedxEuston (x)

I can’t stop rewatching this talk. Adichie is my hero and she just /gets/ these issues so well. She’s incredible, and everyone should watch her talk, if they haven’t already.

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Low-Carb Cauliflower Mashed Potatoes
Nothing beats grandma’s home cooked mashed potatoes on Thanksgiving. Yet, how do you make a healthy version of this household favorite? Cauliflower mashed potatoes are a lighter reminder of this creamy goodness. Low in carbs and high in nutrients, this version of mashed potatoes will leave you begging for more.
Ingredients:
1 medium head cauliflower1 tablespoon light cream cheese1/4 cup grated Parmesan1/2 teaspoon minced garlic1/2 teaspoon salt1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper1/2 teaspoon chopped fresh or dry chives, for garnish1 tablespoon unsalted light butter
Serving size: 2
Calories per serving: around 170
Directions
Set a pot of water to boil over high heat.
Clean and cut cauliflower into small pieces. Cook in boiling water for about 6 minutes, or until well done. Drain well & do not let cool. Pat cooked cauliflower dry between layers of paper towels
In a bowl with a immersion blender or in a food processor, puree the hot cauliflower with rest of the ingredients. Then, place the chive on top for garnish.
From here

sweatsalty:

Low-Carb Cauliflower Mashed Potatoes

Nothing beats grandma’s home cooked mashed potatoes on Thanksgiving. Yet, how do you make a healthy version of this household favorite? Cauliflower mashed potatoes are a lighter reminder of this creamy goodness. Low in carbs and high in nutrients, this version of mashed potatoes will leave you begging for more.

Ingredients:

1 medium head cauliflower
1 tablespoon light cream cheese
1/4 cup grated Parmesan
1/2 teaspoon minced garlic
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1/2 teaspoon chopped fresh or dry chives, for garnish
1 tablespoon unsalted light butter

Serving size: 2

Calories per serving: around 170

Directions

Set a pot of water to boil over high heat.

Clean and cut cauliflower into small pieces. Cook in boiling water for about 6 minutes, or until well done. Drain well & do not let cool. Pat cooked cauliflower dry between layers of paper towels

In a bowl with a immersion blender or in a food processor, puree the hot cauliflower with rest of the ingredients. Then, place the chive on top for garnish.

From here

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sunteaflower:

My mom once said to me, “if you ever have car troubles but don’t know what the problem is, don’t take it in to a mechanic because they will try to sell you things you don’t need. Instead park yourself on the side of the highway, pop your hood, and look confused. Some mechanic will pull over to help and he’ll tell you what the problem is for free.” And that’s the day I realized that I could make the patriarchy work for me.